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Editor's Note: Caitlin Emmons is a freshman at the University of California at Santa Cruz.
This is the third of a monthly blog Caitlin writes about her experiences at college.
This is the third of a monthly blog Caitlin writes about her experiences at college.
| Caitlin's College Blog By: Caitlin Emmons I spent most of high school telling myself that the boys in college would be infinitely better than the ones I was surrounded by. Somehow in my fantasy world, that one summer that divided them would make all the difference. I thought I would get to school and be dating someone right away even though my relationship history in high school was dismal. Sadly, as you can probably tell, I haven’t met Prince Charming yet, and I’m beginning to realize that maybe the boys here really are just like the ones I knew in high school. So let’s go through the boys, the warning signs, and how to avoid the frustration of the “college boy situation.” Boy #1: He’s super sweet and talks to you all summer. You text, make plans, buy tickets for the same concerts... of course he is your soulmate... right? WRONG. Just because he says you are the most amazing person he knows does not necessarily mean that he is over his ex (yes, he did get back with her... it lasted a week and he now has mono). Boys are all capable of using their words to be persuasive, but if his actions don’t parallel the words, it is time to move on. Boy #2: Your friends are obsessed with him, “he’s so hot, and so deep” and you just get the jerk vibe. You try to feel the situation out and he tells you women shouldn’t have rights, he’s kidding but it rubs you the wrong way. He happens to be everywhere you need him not to be, and if you’re having a bad day, he is there to make it worse. He’s that guy that is full of himself and thinks every word that comes out of his mouth is perfection. Sadly most girls get sucked into his trap, and a few have hickies to prove it. This is the boy to steer clear of. It doesn’t make you sexy or hot to hook up with a jerk, it just boosts his ego and makes him worse. Boys #3,4, and 5: Meet the hottie neighbors. They live in a small triple right next door, they walk around shirtless, and it’s sorta like a live Abercrombie catalogue. You can’t help but notice these ones, especially because your bathroom is coed and they spend inordinate amounts of time getting ready... still shirtless. But watch out, these are the “look, don’t touch” boys. These are the guys that can become your best friends though, and who doesn’t want to be best friends with an Abercrombie model? When I started writing this, I decided I wanted it to be a way for people to learn from my experiences, but sometimes it takes having them for yourself to have them really sink in. The point I want to get across here is that college is not about finding a boyfriend or a hook up buddy. It is about finding yourself and that is hard to do when you spend every waking moment with another person. Learn to love yourself first and then you will find ways to love those around you and they will love you back. |
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